Understanding What Is Expected Of You During A Rabbi Funeral

By Harold Lee


If you are not Jewish, chances are that you will not have an idea about the rules of etiquette that should be upheld during a traditional funeral service. Among the basic things you should know is that Jews are buried 24 hours or less after their dismissal and this means that there may not be a wake or viewing of the body ceremony. Those close to the deceased may even so perform Keriah, in memory of the life a deceased loved one. This expresses their anguish during a rabbi funeral.

In case you are not a Jew, it certainly is important for you to know what to expect during the funeral and also what is expected of you. First, it is okay to be there for your friend, though it is adequate to say less or even nothing at all to the mourners. Even if a mourner engages you, choose to say as little as possible and perhaps focus on finding out more about the deceased.

You also want to select your dress code wisely. In this case, just be fairly decent, perhaps in a smart casual outfit. Also avoid wearing heels, especially if you will be attending the graveside ceremony. In case you really need to offer your condolences to the grieving family, get to the service minutes ahead of time and do so. Jews leave the chapel for the graveyard directly or the graveyard for their homes and it is not polite to hold them back with greetings and the rest.

It is okay to sit in the chapel and speak in low tones before the service begins. The idea is to maintain a low key and this is a rule you do not want to forget even if you hook up with your buddies. Additionally, put your phone aside and switch it off once the service starts.

As mentioned earlier, your presence is appreciated and this means it is okay for you to just listen. Very little is required of the congregation and there will be someone conducting some psalms, prayers and reading the eulogy. The stories about the rabbi may bring about moments of light laughter amid the sadness of saying the final goodbye.

When saying goodbye to a rabbi, the service will in most cases take place inside the chapel. You therefore do not have to be in attendance during the graveside ceremony. It will only take ten minutes or less and the few chairs available are meant for the morning relatives.

The Shiva is hosted seven days following the funeral. Attending the home gathering is good, though again, your presence will be adequate. Bear in mind that this is not a party and you should hence feel free to leave after passing by for 30 minutes or less. You can bring some food with you, as long as you avoid foods that are prohibited by the Jewish laws, such as shellfish and meat.

The Jewish laws demand that one lives a good life when they are alive. They never talk about the afterlife so do not bring up the topic. You are also likely not to see bouquets of flowers all over so if you desire to make a kind gesture, choose to make a donation in respect of the deceased rabbi.




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